... along comes this prude from the Middle-Ages.
Lisa Khoury is an assistant News Editor for The Spectrum, the University at Buffalo's independent student publication. Khoury is a student. Her original opinion-piece can be seen here. In this post, she is offering a counterpoint to a colleague's piece which is pro-tattoo. Her own piece comes off as sexist, closed-minded, hypocritical, and as she quickly discovered incredibly short-sighted. She posted an apology here. In the apology, she has cataloged the backlash she has received from around the world. She bemoans the fact that her words are being taken out of context. She intended that her piece be read along with her colleagues and contrasted.
But, as any artist will tell you, the meaning you intend in your work is often lost in translation. You ALWAYS have to take your audience into consideration.
Of all the issues I have with her piece, it is the hypocrisy that I find most offensive. Like most hypocrites, she is oblivious to it. Her main point of hypocrisy is that the expression of the individual (in getting a tattoo) is in her individual expression (her opinion) invalid. How, precisely, is her opinion more valid than that of the tattooed person?
I would encourage everyone reading this blog to click the links above and to fully investigate her articles before fully forming an opinion. You want to actually KNOW what you are talking about before you spout-off, unlike our student writer being sighted in this piece.
The thrust of her article is that women are naturally beautiful, and therefore tattoos are not only an unnecessary enhancement, they ruin and otherwise pristine beauty.
"Ladies, I know you're at least at the legal age of making your own decisions, but before you decide to get a tattoo, allow me to let you in on a little secret. A secret you may have not fully realized yet thus far in your life. What you must understand is, as women, we are – naturally – beautiful creatures."
She then goes on to suggest that this natural beauty be enhanced by working out at the gym, dressing in "lavish, fun, trendy clothes", wearing high heels, getting her nails done, taking up yoga, or getting a new hair-style. Wait a second... how is any of this an aspect of natural beauty? Indeed, make-up and clothing are used to create an illusion of an ideal often by obscuring reality! Mascara can make your eyes appear larger. Foundation hides wrinkles and blemishes. A push-up bra, well, pushes-up that which naturally sags down. Clothing, make-up, and tattoos are meant to allow the individual to have some control in how they are perceived.
If Khoury's only issue was with a tattoo permanence, then her article would probably not be nearly as volatile. She takes her argument a step beyond the permanence of a tattoo by suggesting that a tattoo reflects poorly on the person... displaying a lack of "class".
"But something girls seem to forget nowadays, or maybe have not been taught, is that women hold the world's class and elegance in their hands, as well. So what's more attractive than a girl with a nice body? I'll tell you what: a girl with class. Looks may not last, but class does. And so do tattoos."
I wonder how Ms. Khoury defines "class". It seems to me that "class" has a fairly arbitrary definition. What one person finds classy may not be the same for another. I wonder if she would consider a person expressing an opinion based on only his or her cursory experience with the topic as THE opinion which should prevail as "classy". Talking trash about another person's expression of self, such as their personal effort to define themselves through art, seems classless to me.
But that is my opinion. I recognize that Ms. Khoury is entitled to her own, and if she doesn't like tattoos she shouldn't get one. But, looking down your nose at a person who has made a choice that you would not is classless (in my opinion). Does she take an equally high moral stance on those who make other choices she does not agree with? For example, would she mouth-off against homosexuality if she herself felt opposed to it, or does she have the good sense to simply not have sex with another woman and keep her mouth shut?
You see, while she may be opposed to getting a tattoo, NO ONE IS SUGGESTING SHE GET ONE. She, on the other hand, feels perfectly comfortable with telling the rest of the world what to do.
This is the problem I have with all the "moral high ground" people. They assume that what is right to them is right for all. Personal liberty and freedom of expression is only good for those who agree with them.
"Can you get meaning out of a tattoo? Arguably. If you want to insert ink into your skin as a symbol for something greater than yourself, then maybe you are proving a point to yourself or the rest of the world. But at the end of the day, are you really a happier person? Has this tattoo, for instance, caused you to learn something new about yourself? Has it challenged you? Has it led you to self-growth? Nothing comes out of getting a tattoo. You get a tattoo, and that's it. You do something productive, though, and you see results. That's a genuine, satisfying change in life. Not ink."
This is simply a display of her ignorance regarding tattoos. I have never encountered a tattoo that did not have some meaning to the person adorned with it. It might be deeply spiritual, in memory of a lost love, or could simply symbolize that one crazy night on the town... tattoos always have meaning. Has a tattoo cause you to learn something new about yourself? Absolutely. Getting a tattoo is joining a tribe who shares a distinct experience that those who lack tattoos cannot appreciate. The tattoo process is painful. A tattoo is a commitment. The experience itself teaches a person about their limits and often redefines them. My father assumed that I would never get a tattoo, even after I expressed a desire to become a tattoo artist. Getting a tattoo transcended the pre-supposed limitations that were established by my families moral indoctrination. I violated that unspoken taboo, and discovered that there was nothing to fear and no reprisals. It was a challenge that resulted in self-growth. Everyday, my tattoos set me apart from the herd. My ink is as unique as a fingerprint, and even if someone got the same tattoos it would be a different experience with a different meaning...
...because we aren't all cookie-cutter clones for whom one set of values and morals is sufficient.
I respect Ms. Khouy's opinion, even if I disagree with it. I would never encourage anyone to get a tattoo. You come to that decision on your own, and then I am here to facilitate the process. Ms. Khoury seems to think she has a personal stake in your choice to get a tattoo.
"God knows the last thing this world needs is another generation of kids questioning their basic values and morals."
But another generation of busy-bodies defining right-and-wrong for the rest of us is what we need? I don't think so. I would think, if Ms. Khoury were to take a look around the world outside her classroom, that she would find greater threats to "basic values and morals" than tattoos. People are denied the right to marry who they choose in the land of the free. A simple, effective, and readily available treatment for pain and terminal disease remains illegal because of a close-minded opinion based on racial prejudice. The number of overweight people in the world is twice that of people who are starving... yet they still starve. Grandma having a tattoo is the least of our concerns as a society.
Ms. Khoury has apologized simply because she does not like the backlash she has received over her op-ed piece. I have a feeling that life in the real world is waiting to teach her a painful lesson.
Jason Sorrell is a writer, tattoo artist, satirist, artist, and generally nice guy living in Austin, TX. Shoot him an email at sorrellart@hotmail.com